How To Avoid Starting A Quarrel With Your Partner In A Relationship.

More often than not, partners in a relationship will always at some point find themselves quarreling. Quarrels fuel hatred and fights that lead to broken relationships or even worse. 

But before all breaks loose, it would be worth trying the following ways on how to avoid starting a quarrel with your partner in a relationship.

1. Never Stop Communicating.

When the talking stops, the fighting begins! Where is the “Good morning love, how was your night?” or “Is there something disturbing you darling?”  

Abrupt silence from your partner may be in response or an indication to an action or a moment that may have caused them deep pain or annoyance. This may continue for days, weeks and even months and when spoken to responses tend to be short, rude and may end up been physical and aggressive.

To come out of such a situation, communication between partners has to be restored. Seeking a third party to intervene is a good start. It would help to know what is may have lead to the abrupt silence from your partner and would help avoid unnecessary confrontation. 

Leaving a sticky note on the refrigerator door or under the car keys would also be a smart way to start a written communication. You can even go further and send a mobile text message or send an email. This provides a neutral ground to ask questions and try to get a response. Eventually, there should be a response once tempers cool off.

It is more important to always ensure that partners keep communicating as by doing so chances are that one would speak out if something goes wrong and act on it. This would be a big win as any quarrel could be averted preventing any imminent quarrel from escalating.

 

2. Learn Each Others Weak Attributes 

How do you like your coffee or tea in the morning? Well we are all different in one way or the other. This also applies to our qualities as well. In a relationship people from two different back grounds come together and not all their personal characteristics merge as expected.

Times are when your partner will do something or say something which to them seems absolutely alright but happen to be irritating to you. 

Does this mean that we end the relationship? Absolutely not.  By learning each others weak attributes you get to know each other much better and in return help one another to improve and this strengthens the relationship even more.  

Quarrels arise when you choose not to inquire into the reasons behind the actions of your partner and instead rush into unfounded conclusion.

By been more sober and not quick to judge immensely abates chances of starting a quarrel between partners in a love relationship.   

3. Been Apologetic and Forgiving Does Not Mean You Are Weak.

Bridges in a relationship are built by learning to apologize, while walls of contempt and hatred are brought down by learning to forgive. 

By accepting that you are in the wrong and ready to apologize is a beginning opening up talks with your partner towards mending a broken misunderstanding. The word sorry can be very comforting. The reason why many people avoid apologizing it because it makes them look weak. On the contrary, apologizing to someone you have wronged heals the pain caused and shows that you care about them.

Go further if possible to show that you mean it. A written apologize attached to a small gift would be an indication of the weight and sincerity of your apology. 

On the other hand, saying “I forgive you” puts behind the wrongs done to you and acts as a beginning of mending peace with your partner.