In A Mind of a Loose Man

The word man depicts responsibility, accountability, productivity, protection, care, love and a source of hope.

Surprisingly or unbelievably for a better luck of words, man has been the opposite of all the words above. A change in the way he thinks.



Here are 5 things found in a mind of a loose man




1. Indecisiveness Is Found In a Mind of a Loose Man.
Nothing brings confidence more then a decisive mind. Decision making is prime and big minds attract attention.

Failing to make even of the simplest of decisions is an indication of poor judgment. It is time wasting and portrays a poor image of a man.

Indecisiveness minds are treacherous and can be evident in a mans relationship. 




2. All Party and No Work.
In a mind of a loose man, a timeline of nostalgia is what glows brightest.

Every day is a celebration. A scene of reality that everything is working smoothly.

Work is a provocation and easy cash is the right way to earn a living.

An electric mind but a bother and a nagging instrument of the hard economic times, witty in their words to get handouts to support their way of living.

A closer look of any accomplishments in a mind of a loose man shows failed projects, agony and regret.

There is no development either socially, physically or financially. 




3. Every Smart Lady Has a Price Tag.
A mind of a loose man diminishes the essence of a true lady. Any lady is perceived to have a tag price. Such a may does not honor a no answer.

Ladies are classified, valued and described in accordance to their dressing and style.

The word respect for a lady is a vice in their vocabulary.

In an event that a lady refuses to accept a loose mans advances, they are sent off with insults.

Nothing is free and any good act from a loose mans mind must be repaid.




4. Procrastination Is The Order of The Day.
"If you want to do something, do it yourself!". Never entrust anything to a loose mans mind. It will never get done.

Time seems endless in their world. They never mix their words in convincing you that all will be well and that there is plenty of time and that a deadline is still far.




5. Negative Character.
Rudeness, Impoliteness, Aggressiveness, are visible all over a loose mans mind.

There exists no form of courtesy and words like "please", "excuse me", "i am sorry" are never forth coming.

Anyone in the midst of a loose mans mind is bond to fail and sooner or later, they will pickup their negative character.

Run, run as fast as your feeble legs can carry you once you notice a loose mans mind is near you or else you will live a regrettable life.

Oh Money! Oh Money! Why Do You Make Me Look So Bad!

'Oh Money! Oh Money! Why Do You Make Me Look So Bad?', groaned Kim as we drove home at the end of the wedding party.


Our friend James was the bridegroom and his wedding was attended by dignitaries and covered by some of the top TV Stations in the country.


3 years ago we were the only graduates in sales & marketing and the future looked promising. We all left our own ways but James had better plans.


James teamed up with his long term girlfriend and started a marketing company. Who would have ever guessed that their union would be a recipe for success!


Their success attracted not only local businesses but international as well. It was ranked the best company that year and this meant a smile all the way to the bank.


Kim on the other hand was the procrastinating type. His uncle had waited till he graduated to offer him a top position in his company.


Kim thought it was not the right time to start working as he wanted to travel and breath some fresh air. After all, he had just completed his studies and needed time to reflect.


Three years passed and James invited me to his wedding. It was more like a reunion as we had long gone our ways and we hardly kept in touch. Kim was in attendance as well.


I noticed Kim wasn't the talkative friend I knew in our school days. He also seemed to be drowned into deep thoughts every time I called on him.


Kim would later open up to me and pour out what had become of him over the past three years. He never made it to work in his uncles firm and neither did he get a job elsewhere.


Kim had attempted to start his company overseas, a venture that did not see the light of the day.


He lamented that despite James been successful and me having a family and a posh car he was the unlucky one. Kim was the kind that spoke before a crowd and left tongues wagging.


He was the motivational guy in our school days.


Life had ravaged him and with no financial muscle behind his efforts to rebuild his ideas, he was trapped in his own thoughts and was more drowned by the fact he was worth nothing compared to his friends.


I offered to drive him home after the wedding. He sure did have quite some wine and I could see how he leaned back with watery eyes uttering these words "Oh money! Oh money! Why Do You Make Me Look So Bad!"


I could not stop thinking of Kim later that evening. What went wrong and how could I get him loose from the web that held him down?


Despite all looking normal, money has become a measure of success. The same success that has been a mirage to many. Why should it be that way?


I called James three months later and we came up with a way to help Kim get on his feet.


A midst all that, I came to learn that in both worlds of the haves and have not, money is neither the source of happiness nor a source of predicaments.


If only we could work out the puzzle in our minds right, we stand a better chance to succeeded in whatever we strive to achieve.


Kim is now happily married and working as manager in one of his uncle's firms.

Online Shopping

Shopping is more or less like an inevitable activity we do either on a daily, weekly or monthly basis be it for groceries, clothing, cooking products, building materials or school items name it, we can not avoid performing it.

Most people upon hearing the word shopping makes them feel a cold chill run down their spine. Why spend hours walking around and between buildings looking through windows for a few products one may ask. Others standing in a queue.

Yes, that is the shopping we are used to but not anymore because it is now possible to all kinds of shopping on the Internet. Online shopping has revolutionized every aspect of acquiring products and services thanks to today's technology.

Online shopping is a form of buying goods or services on a digital platform either from a personal computer or a mobile phone. The digitization of products and services has technically brought all stores within reach and simplified means of payment as well.

Online shopping has a whole list of merits.


1. It Saves Time
You agree that the traditional way of shopping takes up a great deal of time. Time starts lapsing from the moment you leave home, drive through traffic and finally reach the stores only to find a long queue.

Online shopping is a time saver. The initial minutes are spent searching and reading about the product or service you intend to purchase. Next few minutes are spent filling your shopping cart and processing payment, lastly you receive a receipt. No traveling, no queues, no traffic, no bad weather and no time wasted.

Shopping online comes with an option of either collecting your purchase from a nearby outlet or have your purchase delivered right to your door step. Home delivery ensures your purchase reaches you in time and as ordered. Again all this happens without you leaving your house  something that may have sounded impossible.



2. Improved Customer Service
Online shopping through the FAQ or Frequently Asked Questions has tremendously improved and helped answering questions that often arise when shoppers are seeking to purchasing products or services.

Unlike the traditional way of shopping where we had to bear with a rude or unkind staff, online shopping has well trained customer service department ready to answer any questions in regards to shopping, they receive and solve complaints, assist with information on how to use features and services available on their online shopping platform.



3. It Is A Smart Way To Do Shopping
Not once or twice did you have to go out of budget while traditionally shopping because you placed items in your shopping cart that were not in your buying list. It may not be look or seems important but it hurts the wallet one may say.  By shopping smart you also get to manage your budget and finances in a much more skillful way.
Online shopping is again the smart shopping. Products have price tags attached and cumulatively add up as you place them in your shopping cart.  There is a real time way to keep an eye on the overall cost. This is what we call control and accountability.

Products or commodities can be added or removed with a simple click. Interestingly is the possibility to indicate or input a quantitative measure on what you want to buy.  Again this gives you control over your shopping list in a more smart and accountable way.



4. Improved Payment System
Online shopping is digitally buying, digitally selling and digitally paying. The traditional form of cash payment is long overdue. Handling notes or coins is also a health risk in today's world. Online shopping accepts most forms of secure online payment such as PayPal, Mpesa and Credit Cards and Master Cards.

One is able to monitor payment and in case of any issues arising after payment there are records from which can be used to resolve and erroneous payments. These are secure channels of payment eliminating the need to carry money in bulk.



5. Selective Subscriptions
Online shopping is the mail man whom you want delivering only good news about products and services you frequently use or intend to use.

Online shopping email subscribers are able to receive information and updates before they reach the public domain. Upon registering an email address with an online shopping platform you will be able to receive promotional information, shopping coupons, discounted products, arrival of new products and dates about the big sale.

Any other information you do not intend to read or receive can be easily unsubscribed. This is control over what you want to see and read.



6. All Under One Roof
The traditional form of shopping would be similar to a list with items I intend to buy and the location of the stores where I must physically go to even if they were located several hours drive apart.

Not only was this an exhausting exercise with no guarantee of getting what I was after but it would sometimes require traveling extra days till I got every item on my list. Long gone are those days.

Online shopping perfectly minimized all these unnecessary travel by introducing multi-store system under one roof. Products are categorized by name, by price and even by best selling making online interesting and informative.

Item can be categorized by gender or by activity making it easy to find a product.
Examples of categories include Sports Wear, School Uniform, Mens Fashon, Womens Fashon, Perfumes, Household, Electronics, Furniture, Farm Products and Tools.

These are like different stores selling different items and all are under the same roof. This is a possibility that no one may have thought would work. Surprisingly, some products are indicated overseas, meaning you can easily order a product from overseas without having to undergo the tiresome paper work.
It becomes more interesting, you are able to track your oversea purchase till arrives and when to expect it at your door step.

More so is the description section of a product, you get to read and learn about the product. Other users who may have bought the product can leave their opinions and reviews.
So even before you commit to purchase a product you have prior information of what to expect. This is just the endless possibilities that come along with online shopping.





  

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Why Do We Start Relationships?

A relationship between two people and especially whom are emotionally connected has been and is today a subject of discussion in search of answers and advises on how to make it a success.

There is no doubt that behind any relationship there is an interesting story on how it started, on the contrary there is an explanation behind any past or broken relationship.

One of the most disappointing reality in any relationship is coming into terms with the fact that not all is going smoothly and probably sooner or later those memorable moments cherished and spent together with promises made might all have been in vain.

So why do we start relationships only to end up frustrated or feeling much worse and regretting why we ever got into that relationship in the first place?

There are a handful reasons why one would want to start a relationships and despite how odd or insane they might sound, here are some of the reasons why people start relationships.



-A Simple Attraction Is All That It Takes
In the back of our minds there is a vivid imagination, a certain degree of expectation of the kind of  relationship we want to have. It is when we encounter a person similar to our imagination that an attraction begins.

We speak loudly while walking, we even speak louder when we are well groomed. Nothing emanates more self confidence in a person then when dressed up for the right occasion.

Getting it right on the first time means you stand a better chance of actualizing the kind of relationship you have in mind.

A pleasant-look brings out more taste, texture and artistic aspects this adds more to your personal qualities, it makes you score highly on your first meeting. It resonates strongly on your partner a goal achieved in a relationship even before you otter a word.



-An Ideal Match, A Partner For Life
Good were the old days when one of the ladies would catch the bouquet and one of the males would catch the garter, fate would see to it that the lady got married next and the single bachelor (symbolically) become legally obligated to marry!

Do not get held down by those old and good days, because even today relationships can still work and they are working. Everyone has a friend who has a friend that ended up in a relationship with a perfect match such that it become the talk of town.

Nothing lightens and keeps a conversation flowing like using the right words on the right time as that would be all that is needed to start a relationship.

A good choice of words can enforce those initial and vital bonds to kick start a new relationship.

If you heard someone comment that “those two were created for one another,” it was because their relationship was an ideal match.



-Friends With Benefits or Any Other Business (AOB)
Any relationship requires a certain degree of commitment, however small it may be. It could be surprising each other with a gift once in a while, it could be having dinner together every weekend or using a few minutes of your time to call your partner to know how he/she is fairing.

Not all relationships happen to have an emotional connection. In such a relationship there exists a beneficial factor that both partners gain every time they spend time together. It is a win, win kind of relationship mostly referred to as a relationship with benefit.

Anyone not ready to commit in a relationship may find this kind of relationship more appropriate as it last only for a short period.

One would prefer a friends with benefits kind of relationship probably because in their professional life hardly does time allow them to have a walk in the park. On the other hand, probably this is the only kind of relationship that works perfectly for them.

What To Consider When Starting A New Relationship?

Starting a new relationship is a personal experience sought for all the good reason such as happiness, comfort, love or new beginnings. Nevertheless, a new relationship could turn out to be time  consuming, annoying, heartbreaking, stressful or even regretful.

This could lead to a feeling of low self-esteem, rejection and lots of frustrations leading to a self check with questions such as "am I not the right person?" or "what did I do wrong?".

Upon failing to start a new relationship, much time is spent in remorse and in hope that next time will workout better. We often brush away failed attempts which blinds us from discovering our mistakes  and how we can rectify them so as to re-emerge out much stronger, wiser and with a much greater understanding of the kind of relationship we want to start.

Here are some of the things you need to consider before starting a new relationship.

-What Kind Of Relationship Am I Looking For?
Why is it that every time we start a relationship it either gets turned down or never sees the better part of the day or ends up in a disappointment?

To have a higher chance of successfully starting a new relationship it would not only be advisable but also a smart move by first identifying the type of relationship you want. Here are eight types of relationships.

i.) A Short Term Relationship 
There are reason why a short term relationship could be the way to go depending on the following:-

a.) Time Availability
For any relationship to take shape, it must take time. A relationship requires you to be there for one another even if it means to set aside time to meet and spend time together. You could meet over for lunch, a cup of coffee or a walk in the park. If such kind of time spending together isn't possible then, a short term relationship is your favorable choice.


b.) Personal Availability
Most cases a personal availability factors in if one resides at a particular place, country for a certain duration and after that period is over, will have to return back to their place of origin.


c.) Interest
Starting a relationship requires a great deal of determination which has to be backed up with a solid interest to see the relationship grow.

In most cases in a new relationship a partner may show great interest through actions, conversations and body language. If either partner lucks the interest, shows no more consideration and care, then no doubt such a union will end up been a short term relationship. There no longer exists that motivational drive nor a reason to keep both of you together again as sooner or later one of you will walk out.



ii.) A Long Term Relationship
They say good things come to those who wait. It is in everyone's ambitions and intentions to start a relationship that will last.  Anyone looking to start a long relationship must be prepared go through rough waters, over come doubts and bear each others mistakes.  By doing so you  eventually start a commitment, a union tested and came out stronger.  No matter what the future brings you stand for each other enjoying life.

Most long term relationship are driven by an emotional and tight bond. Even though arguments may at times be heated, partners in a long term relationship do not part easily because forgiveness, trust in one another, caring for one another and the will to never loose each other.

Marriages, love at first sight, are life time experience likely to turn out to long term relationships.



iii.) A Casual Relationship 
An interesting and more visible kind of relationship among different age sets is a casual  relationship. It seems as if casual relationships happen out of effect of something or someone for instance meeting a new person through a friend.

Mostly casual relationships tend to occur swiftly. They temporary fill in what one may long for such as intimacy. There are no commitments and none of the partners intends to stay or be involved longer once interests and flares fade-out.



iv.) An Open Relationship
Depending on what pushes you to start a new relationship, you would be surprised to realize how openly and freely you could push the limits.

It is more likely to start a relationship with a person on a dating site with a profile indicating relationship status "in an open relationship" as opposed to a profile indicating relationship status as "here for a serious relationship". What does this mean?

A serious relationship requires more commitments and may exclusively be a monogamous relationship while on the other hand in an open relationship monogamous is not necessarily a must.



v.) A Friends With Benefits Kind of Relationship
A relationship not intended to last for a long time and mostly last for a few hours or days. Time spent together is handsomely reward either in terms of monetary value or with an equal measure of favor.

A friends with benefits kind of relationship can be perceived as a profession, a means to earn an extra wage or purely out of pleasure. This relationship is not based on bond ties and is mostly discretely held among partners.



vi.) A Polygamous Relationship
Personal diversification, culture and economic status are just a few reasons why one may want to start or have a polygamous relationship.

Polygamous relationships are mostly characterized by a male partner having more then one female partner especially as a result of marriage.  A set of rules, formalities or cultural guidelines are followed depending on a persons background when starting a polygamous relationship.

Unlike other kinds of relationships, polygamous relationships are bond by respect among females, undivided attention to all females from their husband, equal distribution of wealth and a family life setting.

Polygamous relationships today are presumed by some wealthy men as show of status figure and source of respect from fellow men.

Others may prefer to have a polygamous relationship rather than having extramarital affairs which mostly end up in breaking up relationships or worse still getting infected with a disease.



vii.) A Monogamous Relationship 
Monogamous relationships are mostly practiced worldwide. After attaining the age of 28 to 30 years. This is a relationship where a person is attracted or is involved with only one person.

In a monogamous relationship feelings, trust for one another can be more tight as commitment is directed to one partner.



viii.) An Intimate Relationship
If not the most widely practiced kind of relationship then were it a purchasable commodity, it would be the best selling product on the shelves. Starting an intimate relationship is similar to an all yes option and a no more delay affair.

Any intimate relationship arises mostly when two partners start developing the following towards one another:-

a.) An Emotional Attraction
Nothing resonates better within us like an emotional attraction that brings happiness that brightens the face with a smile and eyes that can never get enough of each other.

Intimate relationships start growing by sharing emotional feelings and expressing those feeling together either verbally, or by way of gifts, post cards and letters.   

b.) Always Having Each Other In Mind
While starting an intimate relationship, time spent away from each other creates a feeling of missing one another. It is the only thing in mind and it happens that you can not go an hour without mentioning about your affections to a close friend.

Even better is while starting an intimate relationship thoughts of seeing each other are always present and a short message or phone call is what keeps both partners connected. 

c.) Having Strong Inner Bond For One Another
Nothing explains a strong bond in an intimate relationship better then the term spiritual connection.

Even in times of absolute silence while together, both partners in an intimate relationship do express feelings just by holding each other tightly, some closing their eyes.

It is in reaction to spiritual bonds shared by both partners.

 d.) Physically Attraction
In addition to all untouchable sensations in an intimate relationship, everything we feel is gracefully packaged and presented in person. This is the physical attraction that grows for each other in an intimate relationship.

A lot is can be learned from a persons character and much is admired from a their qualities, only by appreciating each other physically do we have a greater fondness for one another to an extend that a day spent without each other feels like a very long time.