Starting a new relationship is a personal experience sought for all the good reason such as happiness, comfort, love or new beginnings. Nevertheless, a new relationship could turn out to be time consuming, annoying, heartbreaking, stressful or even regretful.
This could lead to a feeling of low self-esteem, rejection and lots of frustrations leading to a self check with questions such as "am I not the right person?" or "what did I do wrong?".
Upon failing to start a new relationship, much time is spent in remorse and in hope that next time will workout better. We often brush away failed attempts which blinds us from discovering our mistakes and how we can rectify them so as to re-emerge out much stronger, wiser and with a much greater understanding of the kind of relationship we want to start.
Here are some of the things you need to consider before starting a new relationship.
-What Kind Of Relationship Am I Looking For?
Why is it that every time we start a relationship it either gets turned down or never sees the better part of the day or ends up in a disappointment?
To have a higher chance of successfully starting a new relationship it would not only be advisable but also a smart move by first identifying the type of relationship you want. Here are eight types of relationships.
i.)
A Short Term Relationship
There are reason why a short term relationship could be the way to go depending on the following:-
a.)
Time Availability
For any relationship to take shape, it must take time. A relationship requires you to be there for one another even if it means to set aside time to meet and spend time together. You could meet over for lunch, a cup of coffee or a walk in the park. If such kind of time spending together isn't possible then, a short term relationship is your favorable choice.
b.)
Personal Availability
Most cases a personal availability factors in if one resides at a particular place, country for a certain duration and after that period is over, will have to return back to their place of origin.
c.)
Interest
Starting a relationship requires a great deal of determination which has to be backed up with a solid interest to see the relationship grow.
In most cases in a new relationship a partner may show great interest through actions, conversations and body language. If either partner lucks the interest, shows no more consideration and care, then no doubt such a union will end up been a short term relationship. There no longer exists that motivational drive nor a reason to keep both of you together again as sooner or later one of you will walk out.
ii.)
A Long Term Relationship
They say good things come to those who wait. It is in everyone's ambitions and intentions to start a relationship that will last. Anyone looking to start a long relationship must be prepared go through rough waters, over come doubts and bear each others mistakes. By doing so you eventually start a commitment, a union tested and came out stronger. No matter what the future brings you stand for each other enjoying life.
Most long term relationship are driven by an emotional and tight bond. Even though arguments may at times be heated, partners in a long term relationship do not part easily because forgiveness, trust in one another, caring for one another and the will to never loose each other.
Marriages, love at first sight, are life time experience likely to turn out to long term relationships.
iii.)
A Casual Relationship
An interesting and more visible kind of relationship among different age sets is a casual relationship. It seems as if casual relationships happen out of effect of something or someone for instance meeting a new person through a friend.
Mostly casual relationships tend to occur swiftly. They temporary fill in what one may long for such as intimacy. There are no commitments and none of the partners intends to stay or be involved longer once interests and flares fade-out.
iv.)
An Open Relationship
Depending on what pushes you to start a new relationship, you would be surprised to realize how openly and freely you could push the limits.
It is more likely to start a relationship with a person on a dating site with a profile indicating relationship status "in an open relationship" as opposed to a profile indicating relationship status as "here for a serious relationship". What does this mean?
A serious relationship requires more commitments and may exclusively be a monogamous relationship while on the other hand in an open relationship monogamous is not necessarily a must.
v.)
A Friends With Benefits Kind of Relationship
A relationship not intended to last for a long time and mostly last for a few hours or days. Time spent together is handsomely reward either in terms of monetary value or with an equal measure of favor.
A friends with benefits kind of relationship can be perceived as a profession, a means to earn an extra wage or purely out of pleasure. This relationship is not based on bond ties and is mostly discretely held among partners.
vi.)
A Polygamous Relationship
Personal diversification, culture and economic status are just a few reasons why one may want to start or have a polygamous relationship.
Polygamous relationships are mostly characterized by a male partner having more then one female partner especially as a result of marriage. A set of rules, formalities or cultural guidelines are followed depending on a persons background when starting a polygamous relationship.
Unlike other kinds of relationships, polygamous relationships are bond by respect among females, undivided attention to all females from their husband, equal distribution of wealth and a family life setting.
Polygamous relationships today are presumed by some wealthy men as show of status figure and source of respect from fellow men.
Others may prefer to have a polygamous relationship rather than having extramarital affairs which mostly end up in breaking up relationships or worse still getting infected with a disease.
vii.)
A Monogamous Relationship
Monogamous relationships are mostly practiced worldwide. After attaining the age of 28 to 30 years. This is a relationship where a person is attracted or is involved with only one person.
In a monogamous relationship feelings, trust for one another can be more tight as commitment is directed to one partner.
viii.)
An Intimate Relationship
If not the most widely practiced kind of relationship then were it a purchasable commodity, it would be the best selling product on the shelves. Starting an intimate relationship is similar to an all yes option and a no more delay affair.
Any intimate relationship arises mostly when two partners start developing the following towards one another:-
a.)
An Emotional Attraction
Nothing resonates better within us like an emotional attraction that brings happiness that brightens the face with a smile and eyes that can never get enough of each other.
Intimate relationships start growing by sharing emotional feelings and expressing those feeling together either verbally, or by way of gifts, post cards and letters.
b.)
Always Having Each Other In Mind
While starting an intimate relationship, time spent away from each other creates a feeling of missing one another. It is the only thing in mind and it happens that you can not go an hour without mentioning about your affections to a close friend.
Even better is while starting an intimate relationship thoughts of seeing each other are always present and a short message or phone call is what keeps both partners connected.
c.)
Having Strong Inner Bond For One Another
Nothing explains a strong bond in an intimate relationship better then the term spiritual connection.
Even in times of absolute silence while together, both partners in an intimate relationship do express feelings just by holding each other tightly, some closing their eyes.
It is in reaction to spiritual bonds shared by both partners.
d.)
Physically Attraction
In addition to all untouchable sensations in an intimate relationship, everything we feel is gracefully packaged and presented in person. This is the physical attraction that grows for each other in an intimate relationship.
A lot is can be learned from a persons character and much is admired from a their qualities, only by appreciating each other physically do we have a greater fondness for one another to an extend that a day spent without each other feels like a very long time.
